Most of those stories also involve some painful deconstruction. Fearless renovation. Removing the old, changing habits, and then unleashing creative expressions.
I think most people yearn for transformation. At least on the outside, we feel better if things are pretty, bright, and useful. However, just like the makeover shows, the follow-ups are not always “happily ever after.” I always watch the end of the show eager to learn that the makeover resulted in continued success. Sometimes those who have not invested much sweat equity or personal involvement cannot maintain a change. Maintenance plus continuing adaptation are next steps as part of any makeover. Call it personal, home or career evolution. The opposite of stagnation.
I work with people who desire transformation in their lives. They want an end to unhappy relationships, excess stress and anxiety, bad habits, lousy jobs. And frequently those wanting change, want a quick fix. They want me to fix it. Or just blame others. Perhaps a diagnosis and a pill? Often what results in the most change requires hauling out the junk, followed by extensive re-wiring, then decorating. We can’t just paint over problems, or continue doing things the same way and expect new results.
Then there are the fixers. We’ve all met the “here, let me do that for you,” folks. They often expend great energy and time conducting makeovers for others. And when the changes aren’t really appreciated or maintained, the fixers can get angry or resentful. Imagine repairing someone’s house and then driving by later to see it dilapidated again.
Maybe I’m fascinated with transformation as I’m getting older (Philippians 3:20, 21). I can get excited about the thought of everything made new (Revelation 21). I am still learning not to be a “fixer.” Perhaps my love of makeovers is part of the imprint of God. After all, my Creator, Redeemer was an earthly carpenter.
I believe in transformations, or I wouldn’t be a counselor or a Christian. True transformation is a synergistic process. As I open the door to the Transformer of souls, He provides salvation, then we renovate together. God has the power to renew me (Ezekiel 36:26; Romans 12:2), and each day I can make choices that enhance a new creation (Philippians 4:8, 9). Behold, more enduring than a makeover.
Questions for personal journaling or group discussion:
1. In what part of your life would you most desire a transformation? What are you willing to do to start the process?
2. What are some of the dangers in becoming a “fixer” for others? Are you attracted to projects?
Karen Spruill writes from Orlando, Florida. All rights reserved © 2011 AnswersForMe.org. Click here for content usage information.